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Wednesday, July 26, 2006

Thirteen ways to show family support

Thirteen ways to show family support (Asset #1) to your kids

1. Attend every soccer game, even though the team stinks and hasn't scored a goal in a month.

2. Take photographs at piano recitals and band concerts that last longer than your butt does.

3. Insist upon good night kisses even when they tell you they don't want them anymore.

4. Hug often and long.

5. Say "I love you" again after your seven-year-old says, "You already TOLD me that six times today, Mom."

6. Ask them how their day was - every day.

7. Shut up. Listen to them.

8. Eat dinner together.

9. Help them solve their problems - without becoming the solution.

10. Be there.

11. Include them in family decisions. Understand their points of view.

12. Accept them for who they are, even when you are certain they're aliens from another galaxy - or they're exhibiting all your own least favorite personal qualities.

13. Turn off the computer.

Please leave a comment - how do you show family support?

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  • I've raised them to know that everyone is different and everyone is equal.

    They are accepting and open and loving girls.

    I;m very proud of them.

    By Blogger Mama Kelly, At 10:15 PM  

  • So wonderful!! Happy TT!!

    By Blogger Mama Duck, At 10:18 PM  

  • Those are excellent things to remember. We pretty well do the same thing in my family - especially #12!

    By Anonymous e, At 10:27 PM  

  • Nice, I saw a mom chasing her daughter around the shopping centre one time (probably about 15yo). I think they were lacking #9,11 and 12.

    BTW, some weird things happening with links on this post.

    By Anonymous kristarella, At 10:32 PM  

  • Great List!
    My TT is up

    By Blogger Raggedy, At 10:38 PM  

  • Very sweet! I love this list. I'll have to remember some of these for me and my family :)

    By Anonymous Christina, At 10:55 PM  

  • Aww, that's a great list. I need to pass it on my my little brother now that he's about to be a father.

    My parents did pretty much everything on that list, but the one that made me feel the most secure and loved was when I'd overhear my parents praying for me and my brother. :)

    By Blogger Southern Girl, At 10:58 PM  

  • Excellent reminders

    By Blogger Maria, At 11:01 PM  

  • Excellent suggestions! In fact, these would work well with adults too!

    Thanks for stopping by my 13!

    happy Thursday!

    By Blogger Lisa, At 11:01 PM  

  • What a great Mom!!! Especially the pictures at the concerts!!! I actually went and sat through a preformance that my dd wasn't in cuz she got suspended!! Talk about sad!! (and it was 2nd grade)

    Happy TT!!

    By Blogger Crayonsetc, At 11:04 PM  

  • Oh, I misread, I thought you were telling your kids to shut up and listen, lol. Well, some times we want to! My T13 Numbers Edition is up at Bloggin' Outloud. lgp

    By Blogger Lyn, At 11:10 PM  

  • Amen to every last one of those!

    Happy TT!

    By Blogger Knitting Maniac, At 11:35 PM  

  • From a butt that sits way too long at lots of #1s... wonderful TT!

    By Anonymous NOLADawn, At 11:44 PM  

  • we don't have a family yet, but we try to attend as many school functions of our youth group kids as possible. they really love that, and we do too. especially the sweating on the bleachers in an overcrowded gym to watch 8th graders graduate.

    By Blogger Tess, At 12:06 AM  

  • A great list!!

    Mine is up!

    By Blogger Tracie, At 12:33 AM  

  • Excellent advice! My two are 18 and 21, they hear "I love you" so many times a day, but I hear it makes my heart smile.

    Happy Thursday, my 13 is up!

    By Blogger YellowRose, At 12:46 AM  

  • This list should be taught in school. My T13 is up.

    By Blogger Dane Bramage, At 1:01 AM  

  • This is wonderful advice and you can never be reminded too many times! Thank you!

    By Blogger Kim, At 1:08 AM  

  • Great things to remember.

    By Blogger Mommy the Maid, At 2:28 AM  

  • How about turn off the TV! I have a family of addicts. Great list. Thanks for sharing. MY TT is up!

    By Anonymous KarenW, At 2:57 AM  

  • All very good! Happy Thursday!

    By Blogger MysteriousLady, At 3:34 AM  

  • What a great list of reminders. It sounds like common sense be we all get so caught up in our daily lives that it's easy to forget. Happy T13!

    By Blogger Happy0303, At 4:06 AM  

  • Those are awesome things to remember!

    I sit at the ice rink for hours on end, freezing my tail off and writing checks for lessons!

    My My Thursday Thirteen is up!

    Happy Thursday!

    By Blogger Something's Missing, At 4:59 AM  

  • i think the eating dinner together thing is great. my family always did that but so many don't.

    happy thursday! my TT is up at my new blog

    By Blogger armywife, At 6:12 AM  

  • We always eat dinner together.

    Great ideas.

    By Blogger Shannon, At 7:02 AM  

  • My kids are older and have left the nest so I email light breezy notes and always tell them "they are prayed up for the day" My TT is up.

    By Blogger Lazy Daisy, At 7:53 AM  

  • I didn't get much of this when I was a kid, and I can honestly say I do most of these things with my boys. Just a little effort makes a HUGE difference!

    By Blogger Chaotic Mom, At 8:17 AM  

  • All things that my mom did right!

    By Blogger Carmen, At 8:18 AM  

  • That is a wonderful list and so applicable to raising children! Thank you so much for reminding us the important know, like shutting up and listening! :)
    My TT is up!

    By Blogger Karen, At 9:01 AM  

  • That is love..!

    By Blogger Nathalie, At 9:21 AM  

  • This is wonderful advice. I don't have kids (yet) but plan on doing every one of these when I do.

    By Blogger Minerva Jane, At 9:40 AM  

  • Great things for all of us to remember!

    By Anonymous Nancy, At 10:42 AM  

  • I love all of these! And I'm proud to say that I do alot of them on your list! YAY!! :) Awesome reminders!

    By Blogger Froggie Mama, At 11:11 AM  

  • Turn off the computer??? Surely you jest! Just kidding, How about those football games in the rain and all day weekend wrestling tournaments and "sharing" music time in the car (listening to their crap..uh...I mean music as well as your own) Yep you have some good ones here...great TT, I played too. Stacie

    By Blogger Stacie, At 11:21 AM  

  • Great list, wonderful things to remember and practice. What a great mom you must be! :)

    Have a wonderful day, my T13 is up too...

    By Anonymous Stacy, At 11:24 AM  

  • Great List. My kids are still small so a lot of things are yet to come but loving, hugging and being there for them is always going to be around!

    By Blogger Amanda, At 11:42 AM  

  • That's definitely a great list, and a list to be remembered!

    By Blogger Yoshi, At 3:28 PM  

  • I show family support by giving my undivided attention to my baby girl when we play. I also try to give my hubby break time when he needs it...

    I like your "pass the torch" ideas. I work with middle school kids and am trying to begin a mentoring program in my school...

    By Anonymous Anonymous, At 4:01 PM  

  • ps. I forgot to add....I'm at


    By Anonymous Anonymous, At 4:02 PM  

  • For the first time in 5+ years of marriage we are actually going on a family vacation, just for fun, imagine that.

    We encourage them to participate in the activities that they love, even if it makes a mess, deafens us with squealched notes, or creates 3 extra loads of laundry a week.

    Most importantly we talk. We just talk about whatevery strikes them at the moment. And we aren't afraid to joke and pretend and imagine and live. Teaching them to live their lives their way is the greatest gift I can give them.


    By Blogger Happy Mama to Three, At 4:03 PM  

  • good list- all good things. I think it's also important for kids to know that parents are people, too. some moms tend to forget that. have a great weekend.

    By Anonymous Karen, At 5:22 PM  

  • Absolutely wonderful list. After dinner my DH plays with our boys instead of watching tv.

    By Anonymous Cheryl, At 5:39 PM  

  • What a wonderful list!!! Every parent should see...thanks for the "reminder"

    Happy TT, ours is up to...

    By Blogger Jennifer Sprague, All Natural Mommies, At 6:28 PM  

  • What a wonderful list! My husband will agree with you on #13!
    I try so hard to do #8, it is very nice when we all sit down to dinner at the same time. I've always given my kids goodnite kisses.
    Have a great Thursday!

    By Blogger Christine, At 7:03 PM  

  • Very good list of important things! And yes, turning off the computer is a good thing to remember!!!

    By Blogger Adventures In Babywearing, At 7:51 PM  

  • hehehe i liked #2

    i remember i was so happy when my parents went to watch me on my gym championships :)

    By Blogger Lilize, At 9:49 PM  

  • I love #5, that would be my sons' comment as well. That's a great list!

    By Blogger Waya, At 10:16 PM  

  • I think eye contact is hugely important. When my sons were little it was sometimes hard for them to do when they got off the wall but they did and it seemed to fill their emotional tank.

    I used to say that I wanted to raise children who were a blessing rather than a burden to the world and have always felt like an advocate for children.

    My 13 are exceeding the speed limit.

    By Anonymous colleen, At 10:42 PM  

  • Having 5 grandchildren that have or are playing soccer now, I can identify with that one. Support means everything to a child! Great list.

    My TT is finally up.

    By Blogger Barbara, At 1:55 AM  

  • Two words: LOVE & FORGIVENESS ~ jb///

    By Blogger LZ Blogger, At 8:04 AM  

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