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Wednesday, August 02, 2006

Thirteen Clues about Responsibility and Empowerment

In an imperfect life spotted with arguments, messy rooms and periodic bad days, I’m blessed with glimpses of empowered, responsible kids. I hope these 13 snippets will inspire you to find those examples in your own children.

(P.S. Perhaps this will give you some ideas for the Pass the Torch Contest! Complete details at the Pass the Torch AWARD HUB:


1. He offers to make me breakfast.
2. She opens the door for the lady with an armload of groceries.
3. He donates hard-earned coins to charity.
4. She uses manners with the waitress, and orders her own food.
5. He surprises me, by cleaning his room the first time I remind him.
6. She feeds the cat without being asked (except by the cat;))
7. They accept a life-jumbling move because they know it will be better for the family.
8. They solve the never-ending and high-tension problem of “which game to play.”
9. She’s thoughtful about disturbing news stories describing hunger or war.
10. He befriends the new kid.
11. She stands up against a bully on the playground.
12. He accepts consequences for screwing up.
13. She forgives me for screwing up

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  • Those are awesome! It is so nice to think of the good things every now and then!

    By Blogger Something's Missing, At 8:50 PM  

  • Love you TT ... also love the photograph on the top of your blog - fantastic!

    By Anonymous sahm, At 9:46 PM  

  • It's nice to see these thing and think "ah, they're good (sometimes)"

    By Anonymous kristarella, At 9:53 PM  

  • I think I shall do a list like this in my journal tomorrow

    thank you for the inspiration

    mama kelly

    ps they sounds like totally awesome kids

    By Blogger Mama Kelly, At 10:04 PM  

  • i think that's great! really wonderful kids. it's so rare that i find kids who have manners. i applaud them for their respect towards others. i think they will be very good and responsible adults looking at the way they are now. so happy for you, for them and for the lives they will touch.

    By Anonymous wrigley, At 10:16 PM  

  • That's wonderful they do for you like that! Happy TT!

    By Blogger MysteriousLady, At 10:33 PM  

  • Thanks for all visiting!

    We're definitely proud of our kids. But it's easier to ignore the stuff that drives you nuts, when you can focus on the gems of goodness.

    I hope you'll all consider submitting a post for the Pass the Torch contest!

    By Blogger Pass The Torch, At 10:34 PM  

  • It's so nice when you see good kids do good things!!

    My TT is up!

    By Blogger YellowRose, At 10:37 PM  

  • I'm not commenting just because my TT is up.

    But I actually did just blog about this.. kind of. My six year old always offers me new insight - especially on the war (and pirates! LOL)

    By Blogger Miss Britt, At 10:54 PM  

  • Sounds like you have some great kids!

    By Anonymous Denise, At 10:56 PM  

  • Sounds like you have Stepford Kids. Where do I order a couple? :-)

    By Blogger Dane Bramage, At 11:00 PM  

  • Too funny about the Stepford kids. I was thinking that EXACT thing when I wrote it. But NOPE. Some TT I'll just let loose all the stuff we're all doing wrong in our family;)

    I do try to focus this blog on the positive.

    (Imagine what my other blog would look like;)) Jekyll and Hyde

    By Blogger Pass The Torch, At 11:05 PM  

  • Precious! I love all 13! What great kids... and a wonderful way to honor them!
    Happy T13!

    By Blogger Kimmy, At 11:05 PM  

  • Wow, I want Justice to be as great and giving as yours. I will work on training him up right! Thanks for the inspiration. My list is up!

    By Blogger EmilyRoseJewel, At 11:12 PM  

  • Very nice post. What wonderful kids!

    LOL at the feeding the cat one. Mine never forgets to ask if his family isn't up by about 6:00 to feed him!

    By Anonymous Christina, At 11:25 PM  

  • Sounds like you are doing a great job with them!!!

    Happy TT!!

    By Blogger Crayonsetc, At 11:30 PM  

  • Wow, thats an awesome header graphic you have. Nice to know the good things, very inspirational. Thanks for visiting and Happy TT!

    By Anonymous Dariana, At 11:34 PM  

  • Those were very nice!
    Great idea too!
    My TT is up.

    By Blogger Raggedy, At 11:38 PM  

  • great list!

    Happy TT!

    By Anonymous Ridz, At 11:51 PM  

  • You have some very thoughtful, and mannerly children there. You are blessed!

    My TT is up.

    By Blogger Barbara, At 12:13 AM  

  • COOL list!

    Happy TT!

    By Blogger Knitting Maniac, At 12:48 AM  

  • might if I had kids, but I don't ... so um, I'm glad they're learning how to be responsible!

    My 13're up!

    By Anonymous Janet (, At 12:48 AM  

  • Wow, those are awesome observations about your kids. Hope you compliment them on these godly traits. My TT is up.

    By Blogger Lazy Daisy, At 12:51 AM  

  • I think that sometimes people focus on the big issues, and they miss out on the small everyday things that show the true person! Great list!

    By Anonymous kelli, At 1:25 AM  

  • very positive outlook. great post!

    By Blogger Tess, At 1:29 AM  

  • I am so thankful for this list - cause I still struggle with some of these. Although some are in different settings.

    By Blogger The Merry Rose, At 1:32 AM  

  • A very nice TT.

    The pass the torch contest sounds really interesting. I might have a story or two tell.

    By Blogger Yoshi, At 1:41 AM  

  • I don't have kids, but enjoyed your TT nevertheless!

    By Blogger Tink, At 1:45 AM  

  • That was a great list! Your kids sound awesome.

    By Anonymous Tiffany, At 4:19 AM  

  • i KNOW i am doing a good job when i see my kis routinely do things like these. great list.
    my tt is up.

    By Blogger Laura, At 4:21 AM  

  • What great kids you have. It sounds like you're raising them right! Happy TT!

    By Blogger Happy0303, At 5:36 AM  

  • You know, Many of those I have tried to incorporate into my own life as a grown up!
    There is a new commercial for an insurance company on TV. Instead of showing their good side, they show people doing good things for each other.
    I think that's what it's all about.

    By Blogger Maribeth, At 6:45 AM  

  • you have to remember the good things to help you get through the bad ones. :)

    By Blogger Carmen, At 7:15 AM  

  • Welcome to T13! Very empowered children! Great list to share!
    MY T13 is up. Happy Thursday!

    By Blogger Reverberate58, At 8:10 AM  

  • Great way of looking at the positive! (something I need to work on!)

    By Blogger Lisa, At 8:39 AM  

  • Welcome to Thursday Thirteen! I hope you enjoy it and meet many others! The time you have invested in your children shows. Thanks for sharing.
    My TT is up!

    By Blogger Karen, At 8:50 AM  

  • Sounds like you did a great job in raising them. :)

    Happy TT!
    Mine are up.

    By Blogger Trish, At 8:57 AM  

  • Forgive and forget! Good list. My T13 - Various Jobs Edition is up at Bloggin' Outloud -

    By Blogger Lyn, At 8:58 AM  

  • So wonderful... thanks for sharing.

    By Blogger Shannon, At 8:59 AM  

  • Great list! I love hearing people appreciate their own children! My kids are pretty nice, too.

    By Blogger Beck, At 9:08 AM  

  • Those are great and wonderful tips to be learned and followed.
    My TT13 is up too.

    By Blogger FRIDAY'S CHILD, At 9:13 AM  

  • Its nice to think about. I hope I'll do as good a job with my little monkey!

    By Blogger Momma Piñata, At 9:15 AM  

  • You have some cool kids. It's great to see children absorbing great values.

    By Blogger Amanda, At 9:19 AM  

  • I love your site! In addition to humor writing, I also work with teens as a Spanish tutor and like you, I see AMAZING things in kids! Jenny (new to the whole TT thing :)

    By Anonymous Anonymous, At 9:35 AM  

  • There's nothing more important than raising good human beings. Everything you do now pays of in dividends in the long haul.

    By Anonymous colleen, At 10:09 AM  

  • Your great kids are truly a product of your great parenting. I wish I knew more parents who took time to recognize the "little" things their kids do.

    It's those things that will make them successful in the "real world."

    Those things...and your affirmation.

    By Blogger Kukka-Maria, At 10:38 AM  

  • #13 is the one that breaks my heart. Sounds like you have some fantastic kids.

    By Blogger Minerva Jane, At 10:44 AM  

  • Now you can relax, you are doing a beautiful job! happy TT :)

    By Blogger mar, At 11:01 AM  

  • I will be starting an internship working with children and families at a community mental health center. I am both excited and afraid. I don't have my own children, and yet I feel it is important to help the next generation in whatever way that I can. Great list! My list is up, too!

    By Blogger The Shrone, At 11:45 AM  

  • Isnt it nice when kids do good things. It sure makes my heart sing. Shows that kids do know how to listen and behave. Thanks for sharing. my list is up too.

    By Blogger crygibb, At 11:57 AM  

  • Great list!


    By Blogger cdorsey, At 1:08 PM  

  • You are one lucky Mama! :)

    By Anonymous Anonymous, At 1:09 PM  

  • It's so wonderful that you took the time to really notice and treasure those moments - those are the moments that matter most!!

    Happy Thursday, thanks for joining in!

    By Blogger Leanne, At 1:15 PM  

  • I love it!! I'm stealing your idea for next week. Inspiring!

    By Blogger shellibells, At 2:05 PM  

  • Awww, those are great! Happy TT!

    By Blogger Lindsey, At 2:15 PM  

  • Great list... I can't wait! (My kids are 4 and almost 7 and not quite there with most of these things.)

    By Anonymous Himself, At 2:35 PM  

  • There's nothing so wonderful as our own dear children. It sounds like yours are being raised with compassion and understanding, of which there's never enough in this world.

    By Blogger Bellezza, At 2:44 PM  

  • i loved your tt :)

    i guess it means you're doing your job well ;)

    i'm not a om yet, but i'm terrified of the idea that i might not be a good educator and up bringer...

    By Blogger Lilize, At 5:08 PM  

  • Come by and see thirteen "writing spaces" of my author friends!

    By Anonymous staci wilder, At 5:54 PM  

  • so great -it is wonderful when our kids rise to the occasion.

    i was so proud of my son the other day. (well I always am - but you know what I mean!!) it was the first day of bike camp and one of the kids hadn't brought a snack. my four year old, who loves his Ritz Cheese crackers, shared his with his this little boy. so sweet!

    By Blogger Janice (5 Minutes for Mom), At 6:15 PM  

  • Great idea! Way to notice and encourage the POSITIVES! :)

    By Blogger Lisa, At 8:37 PM  

  • As the years pass I find that I remember the thoughtful things my children did rather than anything else. I think it's time I made a list of those memories. Thank you for reminding me.

    By Blogger Ghost, At 9:29 PM  

  • Hi Kelly - I just wanted to let you know you've been selected as a featured blog for the week at the Hub. Congrats and enjoy!

    By Blogger Leanne, At 9:45 PM  

  • If all of us commended, celebrated and applauded the children for the wonderful things they do instead of getting after them all the time about what they haven't done or done right, the world would be a much better and happier place.

    Thanks for the wonderful list and the reminder to notice all those great things our kids do.

    By Blogger Turtles, At 9:54 PM  

  • Woohoo!!! My TT was selected at the hub! That is so cool! Thank you!

    And thanks to all you TT-ers that have left such thoughtful and affirming comments to this post. It reassures me that I'm not alone in looking at what's right in kids!

    By Blogger Pass The Torch, At 10:16 PM  

  • There was no way I could pass up the chance to be number 69 on such a distinctive list. What an honor!

    Bayou Bull

    By Blogger Bill Fullerton, At 10:29 PM  

  • Wow... not only do I love this TT, I love the whole concept of your blog. I will be back to check out more of your writing, and also to learn about the contest! We are getting ready to begin the process of adopting and raising them to be empowered sounds excellent! I also love your quote about kids being the future and procrastinating. Excellent concept.

    By Anonymous Shari, At 3:57 AM  

  • What nice children!

    My TT is up!

    By Anonymous Wolfbernz, At 12:16 PM  

  • Beautiful! I love this, it reminds me that not ALL kids are intolerable. lol

    My TT is up!

    By Anonymous Trina, At 12:17 PM  

  • Aww...befriending the new kid at school is always the sign of a good kiddo. It sounds like you have great ones!

    Thanks for stopping by my TT!

    By Blogger Pink Chihuahua Princess, At 9:34 PM  

  • My favorite is the thoughtfulness about is unusual at that age to care about things outside one's own social circle.

    By Blogger tracifish, At 3:43 AM  

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